Apologizes when they make a mistake with their words and actions
“We’ll figure this out together”
Effort
Plans dates
Keeps promises
Is consistent
Chivalrous
Your biggest fan
Understands your triggers
Provider and protector mindset
Actively working on self growth and healing
Loves animals and children
Some of these need a bit of tweaking to generalize beyond the masculine partner in hetero relationships, but the rest of them are gold in any setting.
Even those aimed more at men generalize well:
Plans dates — I fully understand that a lot of cishet men are wildly unaccomplished in this area. In general, I’d file this one under “Effort,” and maybe more specifically, “Is glad to share the work of making the relationship fun and vibrant.”
Chivalrous — More universal would be “Thoughtful and courteous,” especially considering that plenty of women don’t want doors held open for them etc. Better to invest in finding out what your partner or prospective partner wants.
Provider and protector mindset — I think “Invests time and energy to take care of you” works well.
Your thoughts?
really like your additions @cleverbrute thank you for sharing!
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